it's just called "forty rules of love" and it's by turkish author elif shafak

(i said 'first' because i meant i have to read it first before i read drag king dreams...hehe!) i started it earlier this evening though and it's really wonderful! and you're welcome.
http://www.elifshafak.com/kitaplar/the_frol.asp
how do you like "behind the beautiful forevers"?