[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Sassy

People I refer to as friends are planning a going away party for a dear friend of mine. They all seem to think it's a great idea of it's held at my ex husband's house. This would effectively uninvite me. I can be in the same room as my ex and politely ignore him. There's no way I can go hang out in the house he lives in, among all of the things/possessions/furnishings/art/dvds/etc that were purchased by my paychecks over the course of a decade, and listen to his egotistical rantings, abrasive soliloquies and crass jokes and NOT pull a sword from a wall and stab him repeatedly. I just can't. I won't. And it's BS for anyone to ask me to. ... So I guess I'll see just who gives a damn about whether or not I get invited to my friend's send off. Oh, and it's a surprise party. So I can't talk to my friend and mention this. He would just show up to a big send off and I wouldn't be there. RAWR~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Why don't you ask your friend if you and he can spend some time together before he leaves? Just pick another day other than the one of his party.