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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow
I'm still confused why the OP's friend is being presumed to be queer??
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Yes this...and I think it was Bete who said it up there somewhere as well.
For me, how I ID has to do with who I am...
not who I date or sleep with or am partnered with.
I have lots of other opinions about other things touched on in this conversation....but I think that is a key point.
As far as the rest goes....it appears (from what little information we have) that the "straight girl" in question is possibly wearing a "Drama" nametag. Personally, I'd offer some resources and back away slowly. My only experience with someone who called me at all hours of the night in turmoil and angst turned out to be the biggest liar I've ever met, and an absolute black hole of energy and emotion.
I totally get a friend asking a friend for advice and feedback...especially if they see a common thread in that friend's situation or life. But that's different from extensive, dramatic, all-hours phone calls.
As far as the measure of whether femmes are working harder to understand trans partners or vice versa....I have no clue. I think different people learn in different ways...and just because it isn't posted on the internet doesn't mean the learning isn't happening or the effort to understand isn't being made.