The Single Butch-Femme Compatibility Questionnaire
QUESTIONNAIRE
PART I - General Info
Real Name (first only): Amy
Age: 41
Astrological Sign: Leo
Birth Date: (day only - not year): July 31
Location: Palm Springs, CA
Height: 5'1"
Eye Color: Brown-ish hazel
Hair Color: brown with highlights
Piercings - how many & where: Just my ears, double-pierced
Tattoos - how many & where: I have 4 tattoos, one on each arm and two on my back.
Cat person or dog person: Both, I have 2 dogs and 2 cats
Job: Library Director
What do you like about your job?: A lot! I love working with people, I love serving the public, I love doing a bunch of different things every day, it's never boring.
What do you loathe about your job?: Overworked and underpaid!
Favorite books / authors: Lee Lynch, Alice Walker, Leslie Feinberg, S Bear Bergman, Emily Dickinson
Favorite bands/musicians: Way too many to list--I love all kinds of music except rap/hip-hop
Favorite movies: too many!
Favorite websites:
Favorite TV shows: The Killing, Justified, Sons of Anarchy, Big Bang Theory, Modern Family, Southland
Chocolate, Vanilla, or ALL the flavors? Somewhere in the middle
A silly thing you do when no one is watching: happy dances when I'm excited about something (although sometimes people see me anyway)
What is your pet peeve: Teenage boys and young men with their asses hanging out of their droopy pants; misspellings on signs; when people say "lie-berry" instead of "library". I can't help that one!
Favorite curse word: Fuck. And all the other ones.
Favorite magazine:
A culture that intrigues you: Native American
Do you like to dance? Love it
If you could change a law which would it be? DOMA. Same sex marriage should be legal at the federal level.
Do you collect anything? Anything to do with elephants
If you could travel back in time, which year would you visit, and
why? I don't think I would.
Would you ever have plastic surgery? No, unless there was some medical necessity.
Your idea of a good meal: Greek food at my favorite Greek restaurant. And any meal that included fried green tomatoes. Really.
If you could be invisible, where would you go, what would you do and
what would you want to see? I'd like to hear what my boss thinks of me, because I really have no clue.
Introvert or extrovert: extrovert about 85-90% of the time, introvert the rest of the time
Dream profession: Anything to do with helping animals
What are your Hobbies: Cooking, reading, day trips, shopping (of course!)
Do you have Phobias, what are they?: Claustrophobia, and Ophidiophobia (fear of snakes) although pet snakes are fine
Do you believe in past lives? If yes, do you have any thoughts on
yours? Not really
What do you get complemented on most often? My Southern accent, my eyes, and my hands. And sometimes my cooking.
What frustrates you most often about your body, ruling out weight as
an acceptable answer? Sometimes I get annoyed that I'm so short.
If given the magical gift to make three global changes, what would
they be? End the disparity of global wealth, cure and treat AIDS worldwide, and heal/comfort all the animals who need it
If you could walk in the shoes of one person for a day, whose shoes
would you choose? Debbie Allen or Savion Glover
Describe your religious / spiritual beliefs, if any: Atheist/agnostic
Do you generally feel understood? Yes, by my friends
Would you sacrifice your life if you could save the lives of ten
thousand others? Absolutely
Biggest concern about aging: Losing my intellectual abilities
What were you like in high school? Total party girl
Is the idea of marriage appealing to you? Yes, very appealing
Issues that you feel most passionate about
: Gay marriage, LGBT equality, freedom of speech, freedom to read, suicide prevention
The person whose opinion matters the most to you: My father's, and my own. Other people's opinions are important in general. But what I think of myself is more important.
PART II: Love/Sexuality
Sexual orientation: Femme, but the world knows me as a lesbian
How do you identify yourself (if you use and identity): Femme and girl or baby girl
Current relationship status: single and hopeful
What you look for in a partner: In no particular order: Sense of humor, intelligence, stability, confidence, inner strength, "butch-ness", how she/hy has their life together...someone who is old-fashioned, loving, dominant, respectful, fun, interesting, protective of me, sweet, rough around the edges, mature, affectionate, romantic, and passionate.
The "type" of person you tend to attract: Very butch, lots of fun, sometimes a little bit of a "bad boy", sometimes too insecure, but overall good people.
Number of times you've been in love: 4
What surprised you most the first time you fell in love? How natural and electrifying it felt
Monogamy or polyamory: Monogamy
Who would you have in your arms right now if it could be anybody in
the world? I haven't met hym/her yet
Have you ever had a long-distance relationship? Yes
Have you ever had a successful long-term relationship with someone
you met online? Yes, it was a great relationship, but didn't work out in the end. No regrets though, and it wasn't because of the distance.
Age when you had your first kiss: First real kiss, 14
Describe your best kiss: Two will tie for "best": #1. the first time I kissed a woman. I was 17, and I thought I would melt right there. #2. I'll tell the story to someone who asks!
Describe your last kiss: It was a goodbye kiss, when a brief dating relationship ended.
What are you most physically attracted to in women?: In butches, what attracts me most is the combination of masculinity, strength, and tenderness all at the same time--like when they show incredible strength and gentleness with a touch or a kiss.
What trait in a woman turns you off?: A butch trait that turns me off the most is insecurity OR lack of respect for women, it's so crude.
PART III: SEX
The last person who saw you naked: Someone I was dating
What are you self-conscious about naked? Not much!
When making love, making out, or just fucking etc. do you like the
lights on or off? either is fine
Three things a person has done to you in a making out or sexual
situation that really turned you on: Lots of dirty talk, role playing, and pulling my hair
Three things a person has done to you in a making out or sexual
situation that turned you off: Ummmmm, that hasn't happened in a long time.
Have you ever taken naked pics / videos of yourself? Not naked, but very close to it
Do you have any Fetishes: Yep, I'm keeping that one a secret
Name your fetishes: See above
Leather - yes or no?: Little bit
BDSM - yes or no?: Little bit
Have you ever had a one-night stand? Yes
How often do you masturbate? A few times a month
Are you trimmed, shaved, or completely natural? Trimmed very short, unless someone makes a special request otherwise.