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Originally Posted by Quintease
Femme - is a gender ID
Lesbian - is a sexual orientation
Lesbians have traditionally all tried to look like each other in order to be visible or did bf, which was a sexual dynamic.
In places where homosexuality is becoming normalised, so are lesbians. So more lesbians are looking mainstream and more straight women are looking gay, ie: no more lesbian 'look'.
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Welllllll, not always.......sorry Quintease, I have to disagree with one part of what you said. (though I normally agree with so much of what you say and enjoy your posts! So forgive me
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"Lesbians have traditionally all tried to look like each other in order to be visible or did bf, which was a sexual dynamic"
Maybe I am being too picky. I don't know how long ago you mean by "traditionally", but if you go back to say the 1960's, 1950's, and before, (the pre-Stonewall years), all lesbians were butch or femme, that was that. Butch/femme wasn't a subset of LGBTQ, or a sexual dynamic. (LGBTQ didn't exist) Lesbian and b/f were one in the same. (Lee Lynch, my favorite author, has written wonderful books about this) So we weren't all trying to look the same back then. If you were a lesbian, you were either butch or femme, period.
OK, I'll shut up now. I'll stop being such a librarian about it.