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Originally Posted by dancer611
I should add that she very much wants to get back together with me. She has apologized profusely, and tells me every day that I'm the only person she ever wants to be with, and believes I am the one. This is making it even harder to stay strong and say no.
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In my experience... it was at this point, you describe, I moved to no contact. When I got to the point I felt I was backed into a corner and couldn't FIGHT my way out (and by fight I mean stand my ground, see myself, protect myself, think for myself, simply have space to breath and think) was when I set the boundary firmer. For me it was if they were going to push and I couldn't be clear then I needed to say no contact until I knew I was with out a doubt secure in myself and had my support lined up.
As others have referenced, counseling. AND layers of support and a plan. You are worth that (and more).
Keep talking... even if when you can't ask for help or know what you need you can speak.