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LaneyDoll · 03-30-2012, 09:23 AM

I am probably going to sound more tough than I intend and if it comes across that way, I do apologize.

End it.

I was in a relationship once (if you count approx 4-6 mos. as a "relationship") and things got physical. She and I were arguing one night and she ended up storming out in a fit of anger. After a few minutes she called me & said "I had to leave before I hit you." So, I replied "then you need to come back & get your things."

She & I were like fire & gasoline. Apart, we are fine, but together, we were volatile. Ironically, our paths still cross and we are friendly towards each other. I have a new policy now-you show me your potential for abuse (or cheating etc) and I will show you the door. First time-no second chances.

No one should endure abuse or the possibility for it. It is not worth it. No relationship, no amount of great sex, fabulous trinkets, or good times are worth the chance of getting hurt. THEN, you have to think, "if we have kids, will it transfer to them?"

I realize that she is in therapy and kudos to her for it. But I would rather be the reason someone got a wake up call & looked back sadly, than the reason my family got a call that woke them up sadly.

03-30-2012, 09:23 AM	#17
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I am probably going to sound more tough than I intend and if it comes across that way, I do apologize. End it. I was in a relationship once (if you count approx 4-6 mos. as a "relationship") and things got physical. She and I were arguing one night and she ended up storming out in a fit of anger. After a few minutes she called me & said "I had to leave before I hit you." So, I replied "then you need to come back & get your things." She & I were like fire & gasoline. Apart, we are fine, but together, we were volatile. Ironically, our paths still cross and we are friendly towards each other. I have a new policy now-you show me your potential for abuse (or cheating etc) and I will show you the door. First time-no second chances. No one should endure abuse or the possibility for it. It is not worth it. No relationship, no amount of great sex, fabulous trinkets, or good times are worth the chance of getting hurt. THEN, you have to think, "if we have kids, will it transfer to them?" I realize that she is in therapy and kudos to her for it. But I would rather be the reason someone got a wake up call & looked back sadly, than the reason my family got a call that woke them up sadly. __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.