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SuperFemme · 11-14-2009, 10:42 PM

I feel like you could be describing ME Wildcat.

Before being run down by a drunk driver, I was a VERY successful project manager in the real estate development field. I was a single mom, and probably amongst the most independent people I know. Asking for help was not in my nature.

After the accident I was so so angry. I wanted my job back, my life back. I wanted to be strong and independent again. For a few (more than a few) years my entire identity BECAME my brain injury.

I am not angry anymore. If anyone feels like it, my website www.adelespot.net is a journey through the path that led me to peace.

I am still strong in many ways. I am independent in many ways. BUT I am not always these things. I ask for help, I check myself when I become frustrated with others who don't *get* me.

My first step to peace was watching a movie called 13 Conversations About One Thing which told the tale of a girl who acquired a brain injury when hit by a drunk hit & run driver. In that movie she says that she asked herself Why? Why was she in that spot at that time? Why did she go to the drycleaner that day? Why? Why? Why? She concluded that sometimes there is NO REASON WHY! That was my ah hah moment. Once I let go of the Why the anger went away and I embraced myself. In the brain injury rehab I attended they taught us how to grieve our former selves. All the stages. How to love who we were and not be our own worst enemy/critics.

Hence the title of this thread. It may sound harsh, but it is my hope that by coming here and sharing not just the bad, but the good we can embrace ourselves as different. I see many threads on many sites accentuating the negative of being differently abled. Sure, there are many many downsides, but the upsides feel a lot more pure than they used to,.

I hope this all made sense.

11-14-2009, 10:42 PM	#5
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	I feel like you could be describing ME Wildcat. Before being run down by a drunk driver, I was a VERY successful project manager in the real estate development field. I was a single mom, and probably amongst the most independent people I know. Asking for help was not in my nature. After the accident I was so so angry. I wanted my job back, my life back. I wanted to be strong and independent again. For a few (more than a few) years my entire identity BECAME my brain injury. I am not angry anymore. If anyone feels like it, my website www.adelespot.net is a journey through the path that led me to peace. I am still strong in many ways. I am independent in many ways. BUT I am not always these things. I ask for help, I check myself when I become frustrated with others who don't get me. My first step to peace was watching a movie called 13 Conversations About One Thing which told the tale of a girl who acquired a brain injury when hit by a drunk hit & run driver. In that movie she says that she asked herself Why? Why was she in that spot at that time? Why did she go to the drycleaner that day? Why? Why? Why? She concluded that sometimes there is NO REASON WHY! That was my ah hah moment. Once I let go of the Why the anger went away and I embraced myself. In the brain injury rehab I attended they taught us how to grieve our former selves. All the stages. How to love who we were and not be our own worst enemy/critics. Hence the title of this thread. It may sound harsh, but it is my hope that by coming here and sharing not just the bad, but the good we can embrace ourselves as different. I see many threads on many sites accentuating the negative of being differently abled. Sure, there are many many downsides, but the upsides feel a lot more pure than they used to,. I hope this all made sense.