People talk about looking fantastic when they're at their ideal weight and I'm sure they do but I want to say, looking fantastic isn't all about the weight, at least not for me.
I was model thin for most of my adult life, and even now, when I'm struggling to lose 15 pounds, many would say I look fine, weight-wise—but that isn't all it takes to look "fantastic."
Confidence is what makes a person look great, and rachets up their sexual allure, IMO. You literally throw off pheromones when you're happy, and feel good about yourself, at any size.
When I feel unloved, I internalize it, and make it true, in a sense—by making myself unsexy with self-loathing, which is a real turnoff to a most people.
It's not an unusual cycle, especially for women in this culture, and one sad bi-product of the phenomenon is how a beautiful woman with low self-esteem is a favorite target of a certain kind of sexual predator or creep.
I try to stay conscious of my internal/external balance. It's tangled up with body image, so I'm mentioning it here.
Exercise ups the self-love, because of the body's chemical response, and because it makes me feel strong physically, a metaphor for psychic strength—or maybe they're linked.
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