[thedivahrrrself]

DO
~speak out the minute you start to have a problem. Don't wait until it's big and you're fuming about it to bring it up. Remember they can't read minds.

~take your partner at their word. Don't read too much into their actions. Trust that they mean what they say.

~get out of the relationship if the trust is gone. Sometimes it's damaged and can be rebuilt, but when it's gone, it's GONE.

~laugh, a lot, together.

~get out of the house. One of you is bound to go stir crazy.

~have separate activities and interests and friends, but have some together too.

~be clear about what you want out of life, and life together. People who care will live up to reasonable expectations, and if you care, you will too.

~think before you speak or write about your partner. Assume they can hear you at all times, even if they're not there.

~buy/make small thoughtful gifts for no reason, doesn't matter if you're butch or femme. Everyone likes to know they're being though of