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Originally Posted by Braedon
Hey guys,
Its thursday and the day has barely begun (literally), but I'm sitting here with so much weighing on My mind and I knew that I could come here and talk to My fellow trans brothers. Some of you may know this already, but for those who don't ....... I officially came out to My parents this past weekend as being FTM, and I guess that I wasn't expecting the reaction that I've gotten from them so far. Usually they are both very supportive (more My mom than anything else), and yet I have been getting almost nothing from them but the silent treatment since sunday evening.
My mom right now is only talking to Me when she absolutely has to, otherwise she is hardly even acknowledging I exist. My dad talks to Me more than My mom is, however its mostly only to complain about what I'm not doing (or what I am doing that he doesn't like). I almost feel like I've turned green, grown a tail and horns and come from outer space ...... its like I'm almost not even welcome here anymore. I don't regret coming out to them, it was something I had to do; however, I am really scared about what may happen in the future if this doesn't change.
I want to hear from My fellow FTM brothers about this .......... what do you guys think of the situation? Should I wait it out? Do I say something? I have no idea where to go from here, so I guess I'm just looking for some guidance (and I knew I could come here). I thank everyone in advance for your responses and support; I'm very thankful to be able to have a place to come to, where I can open up and not have to be afraid of expressing Myself for fear of being judged 
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To add to Ol' Jets comments: you've already grappled and understood the process of this for a while. It's their turn to come to terms with this. My grandmother, who was dead set against this, finally called me by my birthname last summer (took her a year). We often forget that our parents and relatives aren't experiencing life as we are.
Give them the time and space they need and be open for questions. When they do start talking to you expect questions, rage, confusion and such. Be patient as they have a lot to learn and understand. For example, for my grandmother her greatest concern, as a former nurse, (and the concern was echo'd by other family members) was health. They wanted to know whether I was seeing a doctor and how would I know if things were ok. When I explained the whole process and how I see a doc every 3 months and get lab work done then, it set a lot at ease.
I don't know if there is a support group for families of trans individuals in your area (Winnipeg, right?) but if there is, it may be good to get that info in case they want it in the future. One of my aunt's was pro-active about it and found one in Halifax to go to so she could understand more and know that she wasn't the only one with a weird nephew. (although the weirdness is likely due to geekness more than anything else
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