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Originally Posted by ChainerBoi
Butch/butch relationships have a whole different level of... I dunno... something going on. I think, for me, it's more cerebral, more... spiritual? A more intense type of sexuality - and less predictable.
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Originally Posted by ChainerBoi
Or, as someone in a previous post said, "A celebration of equals."
Thanks.
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Originally Posted by ChainerBoi
Ok, for those of y'all who don't read, here is the quote in its original context, (NOTE that I stated CLEARLY, "As someone said in a previous post" - that meant I was QUOTING somebody):
That statement was made last January, & seems Brewcityboi didn't get as much flak for it then as I did when I repeated HIS statement.
I don't speak for anyone but myself. For me, there is a different level of connection in a butch on butch relationship. I apologize that I don't have a better way of describing it than "spiritual" or "equivalent," but hey, I'm not a walking dictionary. And just because I feel that way about myself and my relationships does NOT mean I'm judging you and yours. If your relationships didn't do something for you on a level of spirituality and equality, then I'm sure none of you would be IN them, regardless of what manner of relationships they may be.
Again, I speak for myself alone, and I stand by what I said.
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The first sentence I bolded implies that f/f, b/f are less than. You flat out say that sex other than b/b is less than.
I bolded the word 'more' up there in your posts. It's the 'more' that creates problems for some of us. By saying 'more' it implies f/f or b/f is somehow 'less than' b/b.
The 'celebration of equals' also implies that femme is less than equal to butch.
You can talk about how your sexual proclivities work for you without putting down other folks through the use of un-neccessary adjectives.
Language is powerful. We must all take the time to think about what we write. We must actually understand what 'I' statements really look like. Saying "I think sex with butches is a whole different level and is more intense' is not an I statement. 'I find sex with another butch to be incredible' is an I statement. Or 'for me sex with another butch is incredible, intense, spiritual and cerebral'.