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Old 04-24-2012, 02:58 PM   #67
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Originally Posted by Firedance View Post
So this is your part of The Dance... Don't ask me to deny who I am. Don't ask me to throw away the identity that I work so diligently to affirm in a world that keeps telling me I doesn't exist. Don't casually, thoughtlessly, dismiss my identity, and dishonor me by implying that my identity is less real than yours, simply because I can "pass" as straight!

I can handle coming out a dozen times a week. I can educate people all week long.

But you?
When YOU don't see me?
That hurts. ~Fire.
I agree with Snow and Aishah. I think this goes beyond having good manners and generalizing it to everyone. It is specifically about how femmes are treated at times by butches, FTMS, tran guys, other masculine types- and it's not about not opening a door or going up to get a drink for a femme.

I believe what the OP was talking about was dismissing a femme's identity.
And also as Snow says, "pimping women out."
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