[Abigail Crabby]

I know someone this happened to - and I shake my head that she didn't realize she was being disrespected so.

I tell her over and over - you don't have to *work any magic* just be yourself and never let anyone use you.

I think it's starting to sink in -

I myself hate being reduced to Honey, Sugar, Sweetie Pie, Babe.... I have a name - to reduce me to some name because you can't remember mine or you just are lazy then we don't have enough in common to stay friends.

Da Schmooze and I have consentual familiars and we enjoy them because we are partnered, but that doesn't give anyone else the right.

I'm lucky in the respect that I only got that other kind of treatment in the straight world by cis men. I didn't realize at the time it was wrong as I wasn't a feminist I was young and rather stupid lol

Again, I'm treated to Missy, Lil Lady honey etc by straight men on the phone when we are talking about their cable products. I can't countermand them and demand they call me Sunny (my chosen name) as my calls are recorded and I have to put up with it - just another day in paradise at my job lol