[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by violaine

lovely jen,

hallo

one of the most slaying situations ever for me is when i'm feeling open/vulnerable and seeking further clarification, but the response i receive is so over-the-top-over-correcting as if i'm being unkind! [then, to make matters worse, i cannot handle trying to figure out/deal with other possible angry behavioural issues all connected to the perceived need to 'over-correct' me in the first place !]. wears me out! why not just ask for more information before of lashing out?

whatever i said open/vulnerable becomes overlooked, and the person has seen me in a bad light, and is responding in a way that does not compute. sometimes trying to make the situation better for others sure narrows my own freedom to express verbally or emotionally a full range. that gets frustrating.

ps- my close aspie friend andrew just apologies mostly for misunderstandings. i would prefer to have dialogue and understand/be understood whenever possible.

I have been experiencing this lately, being singled out as being unkind or pitting people against each other, when if I read the posts they make logical sense to me and the last think I want is to be unkind.

Am trying to not be so direct and short, but that seems to get me in even more trouble.

Sometimes I just apologize. But my friends all say I apologize way too much and that gets on people's nerves too. The other day, I walked into the kitchen and said to Cynthia "I apologize for anything I may have ever done or may ever do to irritate you".

I don't know.