What makes a butch "butch" to me is whether or not he/she/hy ID's that way.
I know a ton of lesbians who wear mens' clothes, sport short hair, maybe even pack once in a while, but they are not "butch", and they generally resent the term.
Butch is that certain
je ne sais quoi that cannot be defined, and it is different within each butch person. Some are "soft", most are hard, at least at one point or another
, but there is something about them that makes them Butch, and they have usually almost always been or at least felt that way.
They could wear a dress and heels, but, at least in my experience, they usually can't walk for shit. LOL
Butches are like fine chocolates, each one unique, each delicious in their own way.