[pynkkameleon]

I too apologize if I am out of place posting here. In fact, I really debated on saying anything but this is a subject that I am passionate about.

The advice given thus far is excellent. No matter what, the procedure is going to be uncomfortable both physically and emotionally. There's no way around it. It's that way for females and males alike. Yes, I know it is even more so for our butches and men but not having them simply is not an option as far as I'm concerned.

Mammogram technicians will generally do whatever they can to make you feel more comfortable with the procedure. They are professional and compassionate and know that it can be a frightening experience for anyone, particularly when it isn't a "routine" mammogram. I strongly suggest that there be a conversation with the technician. Be honest and voice those concerns.

Early detection is crucial. Self exams need to be performed regularly for both men and women. Many breast cancer patients are able to catch it early when they or a partner detect a difference and it is quickly followed up on. Most lumps turn out to be benign but still need to be followed up with regularly scheduled mammograms. Lumps or other breast changes cannot be ignored. Itching, redness, soreness, nipple discharge and other changes must be followed up on ASAP. Routine yearly mammograms need to be performed for anyone over 40 and even younger for those that have had previous concerns or are considered at high risk.

I found my own lump at 38. In my case it was cancer and had been there long enough to invade my lymph nodes as well. It is scary as hell to go through that but thank the fuck that it was found before it had a chance to spread even further.

Regular healthcare in our community has long been an issue. So many of our Butch and male identified friends and loved ones forgo regular health checks due to being uncomfortable and embarrassed. If you are one of those that avoid it, stop it! Your life is infinitely more valuable than enduring a gynecological exam, colonoscopy or mammogram. We love you and your lives are too precious to lose to something that could have been prevented.

pinkajl, I think that handling it with humor is an important part of the process of dealing with the anxiety of the exam today. Having the procedure will only be a feminizing experience if your Butch allows it to be. Breathe, relax and talk about it both before and after. I am so glad that you are both being proactive and getting it checked immediately. I'll be thinking of you both today.