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Mr Nice Guy · 06-08-2012, 05:30 PM

Friendship Survey

Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability

1) How often do you see your friends in person?
As often as they want to see me.
2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend?
Just the phone and mostly to make plans. I do a lot of texting.
3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend?
No, none of my friends have kids.
4) Are finances a consideration?
Nope. I'm happy just hanging.
5) Is accessibility or health a consideration?
No
6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration?
Yes. With relationships too. I have every sixth weekend off.

7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it?
I'm very laid back so I can go with whatever comes.

Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values

1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships?
I've never been able to be a friend with a Femme. Trust me I've tried but it doesn't work. Either their partner gets jealous or feelings pop up. Which makes for uncomfortable situations and I'm not a home wrecker.

2) If your partner didn’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person?
Yes. It's my choice. Besides, my friends came first.

3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend.
I've never had that happen. Usually it's me because of their issues.

4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. My friend who dated my gf right after we broke up.

5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? I would support them in any way.

6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship?
I would kick some ass!
7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do?
I would walk away after being truthful about why I needed space.
8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do?
I don't have any Femme friends so I don't worry about that.
9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her?
I have no filter. I always speak the truth.
10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable.
Never had that happen.
11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? 10 years and we work together.

12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that?
No, I have one that wants to but I don't want that. It would be hard and besides she's straight now.
13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”?
Been there, done that
14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner?
I expect my friend not to fall in love with me.
15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend.
Made their car payment
16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you.
Brought me to hospitable for surgery and made me meatloaf after.

17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone?
Date my ex

18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend?
I like people for themselves. Flaws and all.
Part 3 of 5: How important is it to you that:

1) …your friend’s age is fairly close to yours?
It's not
2) …your friend’s educational level is similar to yours?
not important
3) …your friend’s economic situation is similar to yours?
not important
4) …your friend’s religious beliefs are similar to yours?
not important
5) …your friend’s class background is similar to yours?
not important
6) …your friend’s gender identity or sexual preference is similar to yours?
I'd rather gay friends.
7) …your small or adult children like your friends?
I have no kids.
8) …your friends like to include your children, when you hang out together?
N/A

Part 4 of 5: Which of the following shared activities with a friend appeal to you?

1) Attending singles events and supporting each other as you scan the environment for someone to flirt with, etc.
I love doing this.

2) Exercising; outdoors or indoors.
Outside
3) Watching movies or videos; at home or in a theater
both
4) Playing video or electronic games; at home or somewhere else
both
5) Attending sports events or watching sports on TV
Not interested
6) Participating in team sports
I can't. Bad knee
7) Attending cultural events (museums, concerts, readings, etc.)
concerts
8) Shopping
I like shopping
9) Cooking, or eating in restaurants
I can't cook but love to eat.
10) Visiting wildlife centers, going to a county fair, hanging out to watch the dog run in an urban area, bird watching—anything that involves animals
All of the above.

11) Other

Part 5 of 5: What important things has this survey left out?

Nothing that I can think of.

BONUS QUESTION: In your opinion, has the fact that this survey was created by a femme, affected it in any way?
Nope. I love Femmes.

06-08-2012, 05:30 PM	#39
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Friendship Survey Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability 1) How often do you see your friends in person? As often as they want to see me. 2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend? Just the phone and mostly to make plans. I do a lot of texting. 3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend? No, none of my friends have kids. 4) Are finances a consideration? Nope. I'm happy just hanging. 5) Is accessibility or health a consideration? No 6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration? Yes. With relationships too. I have every sixth weekend off. 7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it? I'm very laid back so I can go with whatever comes. Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values 1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships? I've never been able to be a friend with a Femme. Trust me I've tried but it doesn't work. Either their partner gets jealous or feelings pop up. Which makes for uncomfortable situations and I'm not a home wrecker. 2) If your partner didn’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person? Yes. It's my choice. Besides, my friends came first. 3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend. I've never had that happen. Usually it's me because of their issues. 4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. My friend who dated my gf right after we broke up. 5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? I would support them in any way. 6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship? I would kick some ass! 7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do? I would walk away after being truthful about why I needed space. 8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do? I don't have any Femme friends so I don't worry about that. 9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her? I have no filter. I always speak the truth. 10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable. Never had that happen. 11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? 10 years and we work together. 12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that? No, I have one that wants to but I don't want that. It would be hard and besides she's straight now. 13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”? Been there, done that 14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner? I expect my friend not to fall in love with me. 15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend. Made their car payment 16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you. Brought me to hospitable for surgery and made me meatloaf after. 17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone? Date my ex 18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend? I like people for themselves. Flaws and all. Part 3 of 5: How important is it to you that: 1) …your friend’s age is fairly close to yours? It's not 2) …your friend’s educational level is similar to yours? not important 3) …your friend’s economic situation is similar to yours? not important 4) …your friend’s religious beliefs are similar to yours? not important 5) …your friend’s class background is similar to yours? not important 6) …your friend’s gender identity or sexual preference is similar to yours? I'd rather gay friends. 7) …your small or adult children like your friends? I have no kids. 8) …your friends like to include your children, when you hang out together? N/A Part 4 of 5: Which of the following shared activities with a friend appeal to you? 1) Attending singles events and supporting each other as you scan the environment for someone to flirt with, etc. I love doing this. 2) Exercising; outdoors or indoors. Outside 3) Watching movies or videos; at home or in a theater both 4) Playing video or electronic games; at home or somewhere else both 5) Attending sports events or watching sports on TV Not interested 6) Participating in team sports I can't. Bad knee 7) Attending cultural events (museums, concerts, readings, etc.) concerts 8) Shopping I like shopping 9) Cooking, or eating in restaurants I can't cook but love to eat. 10) Visiting wildlife centers, going to a county fair, hanging out to watch the dog run in an urban area, bird watching—anything that involves animals All of the above. 11) Other Part 5 of 5: What important things has this survey left out? Nothing that I can think of. BONUS QUESTION: In your opinion, has the fact that this survey was created by a femme, affected it in any way? Nope. I love Femmes.