Gaea wrote:
..different friends meet different needs...the best of the best are the ones i can call up and say hey i just need an ear...they know who they are...and they know that when they need an ear im there for them.
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So true, right?
Gaea wrote:
1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships?
i think they can work, the hard part is often times my butch freindsh will get in relationships and then i wont see or hear from them for awhile, its ok though because i know they are still there and they know i value my friendships
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I know what you're saying, and I think for me it's true for all friends. Once they are partnered, they're not as unconditionally available as before. The last time I got into a serious relationship, I think it made one of my close friends a little annoyed at me. I was still available, but not always on a Saturday night or for a whole weekend, and she didn't get to sleep over (we would have sleep overs but it wasn't sexual).
That's another thing I've been annoyed about myself during long single periods of time—I would get tired of being relegated to the "B" nights, while my friend's lover got the premium nights (Saturdays, holidays). I'm not talking about jealousy, just feeling like, when you're single, you never come first with anyone.
One of the good things about my current relationship is that while my partner is almost never available to go out with me (she has a kid and childcare is an issue), she doesn't begrudge me my time with friends, or doing stuff by myself. Right now, in fact, I'm in Maine. I took myself on a vacation.
It's beautiful here. I drove for five hours today, and I'm going to rest then go somewhere nice for dinner. I really needed the undisturbed writing time.
If I disappear for a while, that's where I am.
