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Blade · 06-10-2012, 07:52 AM

Friendship Survey[FONT="Verdana"][/CENTER]

Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability

1) How often do you see your friends in person? Daily
2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend? Daily for some weekly for others every few months for others
3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend? Not normally. Most of the time anything I do with friends is appropriate for children. If not they know it before hand.
4) Are finances a consideration? no
5) Is accessibility or health a consideration? no
6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration? no
7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it? yep I can be pretty spontaneous
Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values

1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships? I have femme friends, I have butch friends not as many as femmes though.
2) If your partner didn’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person? depends on why they didn't like them
3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend. when they made assumptions and didn't communicate with me about their assumptions.
4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. It's rare that I close all the doors and windows. I usually leave a window cracked open.
5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? I would help them all they would allow me to. I'm a realist, and I realize that you can't help anyone until they admit they have a problem and are ready for help. Then I'd support them as long as they needed me to.
6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship? This is a hard one. Abusive has many subcatagories. I'd encourage self esteem, and personal strength, to encourage them to make the decision and take action on the right thing to do for them.
7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do? this would never happen. I know my role, this would never happen8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do? I'd get to know them better and then decide if what they offered and what I have to offer would be a good mix.
9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her?yes
10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable. Don't know that this has happened completely. There are people that I'm still friends with we just don't socialize as often as we did at one time.
11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? 40 yrs, we are total opposites. Several 30 yr friendships. I think when you grow up with people and continue to be a part of each others lives even if it is occasional, it is beneficial for maintaining a growing and maturing relationship. Especially as we age.
12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that? sure, I try to always stay friends with ex'es, sometimes it's all good, sometimes..not so much.
13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”? if both parties can keep this in check, I think it is ok
14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner? It would depend on to many variables to discuss in this survey
15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend. I had a friend who was being released from prison. She couldn't be released until she had a place to live and a job. I went to her previous job and ask them to hire her back, and I told her she could live at my house as long as she was drug free. I let her drive my truck to work every night.
16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you. He let me use his credit card to buy a fridge. I had bought 3 used ones in one year and the last one went out the first week of June last year. I paid him back, but had he not been generious enough to do that for me, I guess I still wouldn't have a working fridge.
17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone? lack of respect, breaking a confidence, spreading rumors, stealing, abusive behavior,

18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend?
People are the way they are you either accept them they way they are or you distance yourself from them

06-10-2012, 07:52 AM	#59
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,415 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Friendship Survey[FONT="Verdana"][/CENTER] Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability 1) How often do you see your friends in person? Daily 2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend? Daily for some weekly for others every few months for others 3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend? Not normally. Most of the time anything I do with friends is appropriate for children. If not they know it before hand. 4) Are finances a consideration? no 5) Is accessibility or health a consideration? no 6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration? no 7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it? yep I can be pretty spontaneous Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values 1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships? I have femme friends, I have butch friends not as many as femmes though. 2) If your partner didn’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person? depends on why they didn't like them 3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend. when they made assumptions and didn't communicate with me about their assumptions. 4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. It's rare that I close all the doors and windows. I usually leave a window cracked open. 5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? I would help them all they would allow me to. I'm a realist, and I realize that you can't help anyone until they admit they have a problem and are ready for help. Then I'd support them as long as they needed me to. 6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship? This is a hard one. Abusive has many subcatagories. I'd encourage self esteem, and personal strength, to encourage them to make the decision and take action on the right thing to do for them. 7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do? this would never happen. I know my role, this would never happen8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do? I'd get to know them better and then decide if what they offered and what I have to offer would be a good mix. 9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her?yes 10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable. Don't know that this has happened completely. There are people that I'm still friends with we just don't socialize as often as we did at one time. 11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? 40 yrs, we are total opposites. Several 30 yr friendships. I think when you grow up with people and continue to be a part of each others lives even if it is occasional, it is beneficial for maintaining a growing and maturing relationship. Especially as we age. 12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that? sure, I try to always stay friends with ex'es, sometimes it's all good, sometimes..not so much. 13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”? if both parties can keep this in check, I think it is ok 14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner? It would depend on to many variables to discuss in this survey 15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend. I had a friend who was being released from prison. She couldn't be released until she had a place to live and a job. I went to her previous job and ask them to hire her back, and I told her she could live at my house as long as she was drug free. I let her drive my truck to work every night. 16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you. He let me use his credit card to buy a fridge. I had bought 3 used ones in one year and the last one went out the first week of June last year. I paid him back, but had he not been generious enough to do that for me, I guess I still wouldn't have a working fridge. 17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone? lack of respect, breaking a confidence, spreading rumors, stealing, abusive behavior, 18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend? People are the way they are you either accept them they way they are or you distance yourself from them __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.