[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Little Fish

So IslandScout,

I see you in here flitting about, perhaps you could enlighten a Butch or two in here.....

It's much easier (IMO) to know or suspect a femme might be interested, when in person, but help us out here Scout--how are we to know if she's crushing on us online??

Conversely, how might a Butch go about expressing our crush, to see if she's interested or not.

(Can you imagine us Butches in a classroom, sitting in too small desks? --all of us in jeans and cargo shorts, boots and sneakers, the floor around us a debris field of backpacks and gym bags-- rapt and earnest faces, looking at you in front of the class, waiting......no pressure.). <<<<<<< also, nice dress Scout, your shoes look amazing!

Dear Little Fish,

I see that you have your hand up (again, LOL!), and you pose some very interesting questions.

First of all, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, the Planet provides a number of nice big shiny tools to assist you in your flirting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong, for example, with simply posting a lovely landscape shot on a Femme’s message wall, with no note attached—sort of like dropping a basket of puppies on her doorstep, ringing the bell and running.

If you're feeling a little more brave (and it is my impression that you, Little Fish, often feel a little more brave!), you can use your words—we have planted plenty of conversation starters in our profiles and our posts are quite endowed, if I may say so, with various degrees of winks, smiles, and harmless challenges.

As is often the case, you can also post photos of your car, boat, motorcycle, equipment of various types, dog in all his various poses and settings—all of which we regard with bemused fascination, and not a little patience.

When you finally do post a photo of yourself—each more serious and forbidding than the next—you actually endear yourself to us the most, because we know that quite often, the toughness you project is in direct proportion to the little bear in need of a cuddle you really are, beneath that stern task master facade you seem determined to project.

I guess what I'm saying—and I hope you are taking notes—is that you are at your most effective level of flirting, when you have no clue you are doing so.

And thank you for noticing my shoes.



Scout