I will throw in my 2 cents
I agree with laruss. Respond to someone that interests you by pm and touch on posts that the femme wrote that you identified with or even had a different point of view.
Flirting pm's did not do it for me but serious, thoughtful, relatable ones sure did.
I appreciate sharp wit and a quick mind. Ability to be vulnerable is also very attractive.
Those qualities in those early pm's are how my initial attraction to my butch started.
Love grew later after meeting in person.
This femme's class dismissed
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~Anya~
Democracy Dies in Darkness
~Washington Post
"...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable."
UN Human Rights commissioner