What I believe about crushes:
1) When a crush isn't reciprocated, it dies of attrition.
2) Crushing can give people the energy to get a friendship started. They might never act on the crush, or it might atrophy (see #1), but then the good news is, they have a new friend!
3) For me, a crush is something I feel for someone who isn't real to me—like Jane Lynch or Martina Navritalova, both of whom are like little people I put in the doll house of my fantasies.
4) If you're a "real" person (i.e., there is possibility of meeting you), I won't crush but might go straight to "like." And really liking someone is euphoric for me, a chemical experience in which my brain purrs.
4) On BFP I don't crush exactly but a couple times I've sensed something in a person's posts that is missing in my life, and it started a longing for that thing, which isn't exactly the same as longing for that person or crushing on that person.
5) I'm not sure I know what a crush is, though I talk like I do.
Sincerely,
Scout
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