So I did that thing I do that is so annoying.
I tried to find something good to relate to or say about that show...
1) It was LBGTQIA** that she publically informed everyone watching..... I liked that it was an attempt to include everyone
** standing for Lesbian/Bisexual/Gay/Trans/Questioning/Intersexed/Allies
(even if it got twisted and made to seem like everyone who now tries to inform others may be treated like a fanatic, like that character, they may then tune out and ask "So when will ya turn Bi?" )
2) It may have helped in disparaging the myth that the Queer Community is exempt of violence against women or Domestic violence, or that it is a less diverse range of any type of people than the hetero community... and said something like the statement "just like strait". I like that because that kind of thinking is an obstacle for women in our community when they do need to seek help for violent acts against them by same sex partners. Some have been laughed off and or turned away.
** (I use Queer when talking about the community I feel connected to. It is my personal choice of a word that
to me defines what I personally view as everyone before the "ally" letter of the above anacronym.)
3) It touched on something I have seen happen in the queer community relating to how some are so ultra sensitized by the daily insults and discrimination from the outside world that they: can be abrasive to someone who is not biased.... They can turn on one another, discriminate against certain "types" of their own community (bisexuals and femmes sometimes have this happen to them, just not soo often that svu is right to stereotype us all to be "like that"), her character on the show also alienates actual supporters by projecting the defensive over reaction to every single thing said... wrong place and time to say that!! Umm but we should be careful NOT to seem like that... especially now that people have seen THAT episode.
At the same time this "bright side" I saw.. if you call it bright... was also where I was yelling at the tv. These three were a real stretch, even for me Ms. Pollyanna. I REALLY hated the world maybe thinking that the lesbian community views someone who realizes they are bi as a "traitor" and that we peer pressure one another to stay gay. UGH that bothered me because even though I have seen it, never really want to think that is the majority attitude that bi's are not included. Or men of any sexuality are mistreated by lesbians. It's not the norm I want portrayed as an accurate example of any of us...
OK thats all I could vomit up good or positive about tonights SVU show. I'd prefer to just say "yeah what she said in that list above"
But cause I cant communicate "me too" ALL the time ...
Next I will be resorting to saying "Well at least Aggressives were mentioned" rather than go off about what THAT one is gonna stir up for butches and trans. The masculine women in the queer community were just represented as Domestic Abusers. Regardless of my no. 2 up there, I think the show will do more harm than good by making that person an abuser. Coulda touched on same sex domestic violence without targeting or stereotyping.
P.S. I know VERY little about "aggressives" and if they are any way related to the butch term ...? Am I the only one wondering? If so be gentle with me. No disrespect meant in this post at all. I am still shell shocked from the whole day today. I have heard the term mentioned in the "BF: are these terms antiquidated" thread. Scared to ask back then... But I dont trust public opinion on some random site that comes up on a search. I Want to read about it here where I trust more that I am getting an educated answer.
I have heard of the documentary called "The Aggressives" but havent seen it, or heard our own perspective of accuracy, like if there are stereotypes to look beyond.
See a review at :
http://www.buygay.com/the-aggressives/p-231574-2