[kannon]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

Originally Posted by guihong

Agree. Sometimes it works out, and that's great if it does. I'm sure we wish you all the best.

Just be aware that you know little about how people really are after two meetings and a lot of online time. That "madly in love" feeling is fun but it's a lot of work to keep it going. Choose well.

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I have wrestled with whether or not I should say something about this. I try to not be confrontational or to ever hurt anyone's feelings but in this case, I feel compelled.

I have been on the Planet for over a year now. I have watched some folks on their second and third loves in this past year.

We are such a minority within a minority with our butch-femme dynamic. When we meet someone that we connect with emotionally and sexually, it is such a rush of joy-it feels like it will last forever!

Particularly in the beginning, that meshing of souls, values, interests and sexual attraction, is intense!

Even if all of those factors remain in the long-term, who and what makes you as a person comes out, as time goes on. None of us were raised in exactly the same way! None of us handle joy, happiness, frustration, anger or life stressors in exactly the same way. Only in time do all of these sides of a person manifest. Whether or not one can deal with all of those sides of us as people, can only be learned in time.

I thought that the butch I am in love with and I started corresponding in October 2011 but I went back through old pm's and emails and it was last August, 2011. We have seen each other for up to a couple of weeks at a time each month since December, 2011. I am still learning about what makes her tick and she is still learning about me!

I was ready for the U-Haul a couple of months after we met but sanity prevailed. I am still ready but do have a job, house and family here and must make wise decisions, as does my butch. I am in this for the long-haul and since I waited 10 years to fall in love again, I can wait until all the ducks are in a row for us.

There are whirlwind romances that last forever. We all know this and know people that have done and are doing it successfully.

Just be sure.

Thanks for the input and I can appreciate your concern. Christy and I are happy and confident in our relationship and the decisions we’ve made for ourselves. We have the blessings and approval of our family and friends. When you get down to it, that’s all that matters.

Carpe diem.