[always2late]

I am very sorry you had this experience, not that you had a child in your life, but that you lost her due to her mother's selfish attitude. I have heard this story over and over from friends, partners, lovers, etc.. and I still find it so disheartening. A child is not leverage, or a bargaining tool. I'm a mother, it is my job to love my son and do what is best for him. If what is best for him is to maintain a relationship with someone who is important in his life but no longer in mine, then I need to love my child MORE than I dislike my ex. I've only had one ex who was important to my son...and our relationship did not end well. I never denied her access to my son and encouraged her to maintain a relationship with him. She chose not to, she said it was because it made her new girlfriend "uncomfortable", and that is fine...that was her choice. But the door here was always open for her to be part of my son's life (just not part of mine).