[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Beloved

This is a little off topic but the 1950's housewife thing just made me think of it. I have met men and butches who want a 1950's housewife kinda girl and who (butches/men) want to be the head of the house. I find it rather amusing because not only do they want a housewife but they also want their woman to work outside the home. That's NOT a 1950's housewife. That's a slave. They want the feminine person of the relationship to work double time and make all the sacrifices and then have little power in the relationship. No thank you...

I think it helps, maybe, to not confuse id's with personal preferences and basic people stuff.

I have been with femmes who want me to be the head of the house, who wanted to be June Cleaver, who did not want to work outside the home, who were offended if I did a load of laundry or god forbid cooked myself lunch. Didnt work well for me. Does work for others.

People like and want different stuff. Id's do not.

As a female id, feminist butch, I like women who have goals for themselves, personally and professionally, who are looking for a partner to share the load, who strive to develop themselves in ways that help them to refine who they are.

The outside stuff may catch my eye but its the person inside who will hold my attention and gain my respect.