[Nomad]

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

this. just this.