[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Honesty, if there is ONE iota of dishonesty it all comes out and tears down the foundation. Tiny bits of manipulation (even if not intentional) also tears down the foundation. Syr does NOT do well with even the smallest amount of dishonesty, manipulation or secrets.

Monogamy sounds like a nice break after all you have been through. Hell being single sounds like a nice break too, sorry you've been through so much. This life can certainly take a toll on a person if things are not as they should be.

i don't feel that it is the Dominants responsibility to take care of others' emotional, spiritual and sometimes financial well being. i do feel it's the role of the Dominant to guide us in those things, help us make decisions so that we are self sufficient. We all have a role here around here, Syr is at the helm and certainly does her share of care for all us, which is appreciated greatly. The boi and Syr go back a long time, like 20 years and without that kinship the boi would not be where she is today as Syr has paved the way for her to have the life she has today. Without Syr i would not be here. Even with all of that i don't feel it's her job to do so, but she still does it willingly.

Our job is to try to maintain peace and harmony, and i fail at this sometimes. Syr has her hands full and i never want to add to that.

I agree completely on how dishonesty, manipulation, and secrets tear down the foundation of any relationship but especially a poly relationship. Even if all members do not live under the same roof those three things have to be in place in My opinion.

I am of the belief of 100% honesty from E/everyone (including Myself) 100% of the time. It is an automatic deal breaker for Me whether starting a new relationship (mono or poly), continuing a current relationship, or bringing someone else into the relationship. As for manipulation I think when that occurs it can fall into the jealous and insecurity the girl/boi is feeling. I think it was you Dee that said jealous is about feeling like someone is getting something from Syr/Sir that you want (forgive Me if that is a misquote). I agree with that 100% as well and I believe that is eliminated when there is open communication with A/all members of the family or relationship. I am capable of loving more then one person at the time and it is not always a sexual relationship but it is intimate if that makes sense.

Actually at first monogamy was a nice break. It gave Me time to concentrate on making Me a better person and it was during a monogamous relationship that I discovered the Daddy I am, quit by accident, and I would not trade that experience for anything but that is another thread. However, being in a monogamous relationship started feeling wrong for Me, like I was being dishonest to Myself by denying who I am. So I did take a break from all relationships and was single for about two years now. Now I am open and ready for a new relationship and I am not putting a limit on whether it will be poly or mono. It will however be true to who I am and 100% honest.

To clarify My belief that I am not with more people then I can emotionally, spiritually, financially take care of I meant in a similar way as your Syr. I think it is My responsibility to always be fair with the people in My relationships and they enhance Me and any others as well. It does Me no good or the others in the relationship any good if I spread Myself to thin, have to many subs,girls, or bois in the relationship. To much of a chance for jealousy and reduces My ability to guide them and be there for them when they need Me in some way. E/everyone has their role and if it is working right E/everyone benefits each other, especially if W/we are under the same roof. I really do not know what type of relationship My journey will lead Me to a poly or mono I just know I am finally ready for a r/l relationship again.

Thank you for responding and sharing your experience Dee.