[Jett]

I've been thinking about this thread, and about how I knew starting it would taken wrong by some. How peeps may take it as an affront to X, or think damn feminists I'm tired of it can't we just have fun? Well exactly... can't we?

Hey, I'm a really easy going person. I'm pretty damn mellow actually, pretty low key. In real life I've never really rapped about these things. I'm a simple peep with simple likes, and I'm a deep thinker with a big heart, I like to ride and rebuild motorcycles, play guitar, shoot basketball, play pool, have a bud with a bud, find a good suit second hand, spend time with my lady...simple things make me happy. I don't rant about sexism over dinner, I don't talk about misogyny at a party... I'm not to sure I've really ever talked at length about that stuff with anyone real life.

And frankly I've never called myself a feminist, don't really know enough about it's history- speak- in and outs, never been in women's only space... but... if feeling the injustice of the world toward women deep enough to speak out makes me one, then I guess I'm the accidental feminist. Maybe I just don't deal with feeling disrespected well (or seeing people I love dissed).. face to face I'm probably likely to let the first covert or accidental one fly (maybe two), after that I'll say hey that's not cool please don't say do whatever (benefit of the doubt)... but after I say it and someone keeps doing it your likely to be escorted out of my house.

I have big luvs for my B-F community... from A to Z. I know a lot of peeps here real life, a lot I don't, but definitely consider friends (a few just like r/l not so much, it happens). So it doesn't feel good to have to call out shit here any more than it does to hear it. I don't enjoy conflict, or the friction between some ID's, frankly though I see it- I'm just not feeling it in me and really don't want any part of it. I don't have some "group dislike". I'm not sure I'm even capable of that with any group in life (aside from say groups of the Fred Phelps variety) let alone toward masculine ID's like myself.

Identities are identities, they aren't people or personalities. The disrespects I've spoken of in relation to Female ID absolutely are NOT coming from one source, NOT one single ID and to be honest I've heard just as many sexist or sometimes just ignorant remarks from some random femmes mouth as I ever have from other masculine ID's like myself (and a few Female ID). So I never get why calling out the shit (sexism/misogyny) gets taken by some as putting the blame on the shoulders of Male ID's... it's not their doing and not just limited to any one group.

And back to me, despite being sick of the sexists remarks and the fact I don't know how exactly to change it sans call it out, and being really fecking tired of talking about it (I just want to live life), and definitely not one hair of desire to create a thread that I knew was going to be taken wrong and have good intentions be cast in a bad light by some, thus risk ending up in a never ending battle deflecting accusation which I'd rather drink a cold cup of dog shit than end up in...

... I did it anyway, because A. I'm Female simple as that (and to me being an adult female by default I'm a woman... not an ID and it's not political) and B. I have friends who I hear say they feel the sting too and don't feel like there being very well heard or seen... and that bothers me.

That is why this thread is here. This is how I feel, if the intent of this thread doesn't get heard I think it's only to those who don't want to open their ears or minds.

Ok, I'm again pretty talked out but all that said I hope this thread can now carry on in the spirit it was intended.

Metro

adorable, as far as your reference to this thread not going anywhere (as in resolving male female ID conflicts) unless we allow all ID's in here... although that's not what this thread is going to be about, I'd like to point out I already stated this thread IS open to all supporters and allies of the Female ID... and just so you know it, because I do, that includes many many Male ID, FTM, Trans because I've found many of them great friends and an allies in my real life and online already.