[*Anya*]

Good morning everyone. Some interesting posts in here. I like exploring issues and feelings in more depth.

Wolfy you asked if once you have that big love, does that mean you will never have one like it again? I am paraphrasing your question but that is the essence of it I believe, yes?

I think those of us that have reached "a certain age" have all had one big love. It might have been a healthy, positive good love or an unhealthy one. I believe that when you fall in love in your 20's, as I did with my 19-year relationship; one is still positive, optimistic and unscarred much by life or that love.

For me, I became less positive, less hopeful as the years went by and a bit of that open, trusting heart left and I became more self-protective. When I ended it, I took self-protection to the extreme and did not risk at all (ie, no dating at all for the next 10 years).

When I decided life was too short, came out of my shell and began to date again, it was difficult. I went on a few dates that had no chemistry but met some interesting people and learned that maybe it was not too
late for me.

I did fall madly in love, had a nearly 8-month relationship, which ended a month ago (not my choice) and I have spent some time grieving and healing. I know that I will not stay single again. Time is moving on for me and I do want to meet someone that will be there with me, through thick and thin, hard times as well as good; to spend the rest of my life with.

I love having a partner with a good brain, someone well-read and interesting and I love having frequent sex. I did not realize how much I liked it until I had it again! (Not to say I can't and don't take care of myself very well!)

The butch I mentioned earlier that is 15 years younger than I, sounds like fun for a casual, low-key date. She really wants to meet me so I just might do it. Why not? The age thing is a sticking point with me but I really never have butch dykes close to my age want to date me, it is usually younger ones. I can't figure that one out!

Wolfy, go for it. You never know which one will click for you and you might find a woman that is also a rescuer!

Hang in there everyone! Never give up, I still believe that there is someone for everyone but you have to take the bull by the horn and make a move. They don't knock on your door unless you hsve arranged a date ahead of time!