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Diva · 03-10-2010, 11:55 AM

This is a subject which, even now, makes my skin crawl.

I lived it.

I divorced in 1989 and lost custody of my girls because I am a lesbian. I was ordered to pay child support to a millionaire (at the time of the divorce, I was a singing waiter in a mediocre Italian restaurant). Because of my own guilt in the situation, I didn't fight back. I actually TRUSTED my ex-husband to be 'fair'. It was a bitter pill I have had to swallow, lo these many years later.

My girls wanted to live with me and so 6 years later, we finally had the opportunity to go to trial ~ it was a week-long, jury trial in deep west Texas ~ was drug through the mud (both my partner and I), witnessed my oldest child testifying against her father and STILL lost.

A year later, that child was killed in a car accident; and several months after that, my youngest child decided she didn't want to see me again because I was a lesbian. She was absent from my life for 7 years. I continued to write to her, send her presents for every major holiday (as I always had)and never gave up on the dream that she would come back to me.

But her father's true colors came through and she got tired of his attitude toward me, which then turned to her. She was a constant reminder of me.

Things are wonderful now between the two of us (my daughter and me). We speak several times a week and she is about to move HOME, here to Austin, and will live with me for a while. She is now almost 23. We lost a lot of time....but we are doing our best to make up for that now, and I am so grateful.

Just writing this short amount has my stomach in knots!!! I have often thought of writing the story.....it has been so awful that I'm not sure anyone would believe it!

If I can teach one lesson from it, however, I would say if You find Yourself in a marriage and You realize You are a lesbian, GET A LAWYER. BE SMARTER THAN I WAS. HAVE MORE COURAGE THAN I DID. Get Your ducks in a row and then get out.

03-10-2010, 11:55 AM	#4
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	This is a subject which, even now, makes my skin crawl. I lived it. I divorced in 1989 and lost custody of my girls because I am a lesbian. I was ordered to pay child support to a millionaire (at the time of the divorce, I was a singing waiter in a mediocre Italian restaurant). Because of my own guilt in the situation, I didn't fight back. I actually TRUSTED my ex-husband to be 'fair'. It was a bitter pill I have had to swallow, lo these many years later. My girls wanted to live with me and so 6 years later, we finally had the opportunity to go to trial ~ it was a week-long, jury trial in deep west Texas ~ was drug through the mud (both my partner and I), witnessed my oldest child testifying against her father and STILL lost. A year later, that child was killed in a car accident; and several months after that, my youngest child decided she didn't want to see me again because I was a lesbian. She was absent from my life for 7 years. I continued to write to her, send her presents for every major holiday (as I always had)and never gave up on the dream that she would come back to me. But her father's true colors came through and she got tired of his attitude toward me, which then turned to her. She was a constant reminder of me. Things are wonderful now between the two of us (my daughter and me). We speak several times a week and she is about to move HOME, here to Austin, and will live with me for a while. She is now almost 23. We lost a lot of time....but we are doing our best to make up for that now, and I am so grateful. Just writing this short amount has my stomach in knots!!! I have often thought of writing the story.....it has been so awful that I'm not sure anyone would believe it! If I can teach one lesson from it, however, I would say if You find Yourself in a marriage and You realize You are a lesbian, GET A LAWYER. BE SMARTER THAN I WAS. HAVE MORE COURAGE THAN I DID. Get Your ducks in a row and then get out.