You're all great! Thanks so much! Just reading all your replies is getting my confidence. I didn't realize until I started dating again just how dowdy I'd gotten over the years - when you're married to someone who no desire to touch you for years, it takes a toll on your confidence, no matter how many excuses you make to yourself. But now? Sorry but screw that nonsense -- I'm totally worth it.
A femme friend just introduced me to Torrid -- va va voom!! there's not one locally but there's one on the way - I think I'll be stopping there tomorrow afternoon to pick up a little something...