Dealbreakers....
I am poly. MBE and I tried monogamy, but I didn't do well with it. My reasons are simple. I'm very sexual. I have to be able to appreciate someone other than my partner without feeling guilty. For example, "Oh that guy's hot baby. What do you think?". Being poly alleviates that. It doesn't mean you don't make me happy.
I've learned some lessons the hard way. Therefore, violating my privacy is a big one. Just because you and your best friend talk about everything does not mean talking about me is. Obviously, hypothetically we have a fight. I don't care if you vent. I mean in context of my past, my family, my personal issues. I also understand this can be blurry, so I try to talk about it first.
You don't have to like my family or friends. You will be civil.
Those are the big 3. The others:
You don't lie to me.
You don't disrespect yourself, me or others.
You don't use me.
You don't throw my past in my face. This one is highly important. If you know anything of my past, you know why.
You must be willing to compromise in general.
If you're hearing, you must compromise with my deafness. I will work to meet you, but you need to work to meet me.
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