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Nomad · 09-17-2012, 04:05 PM

the buzz kills:

- double standards

- using affection as a weapon (removing it when angry, dangling it like a carrot in order to encourage a particular behavior, using it as a reward)

- insults/name calling when angry

(and yes, you could call me out if i do this stuff. i'm human, not perfect.)

the must haves:

- be over your your mistakes and your losses. i'm a right here-right now kind of girl

- cut the apron strings. love the family. visit the family. involve the family in some of our comings and goings. but unless you're related to someone who can order the removal of my pinkie for missing a family reunion i'd prefer that you didnt spend valuable relationship time worshipping your family.

- talk. talktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalkta lktalktalktalktalktalktalk

the addenda:

- handle your health. i like you. i want to drive you batsh*t crazy for a long time.

- dont treat me like i'm fragile. i'm a tough little bitch. i might cry. i might struggle with the reality of my mistakes or the enormity of the clusterf*ck i created because of those mistakes but i want full metal jacket honesty. i can handle your anger, i just need time to breathe sometimes. i'll sit still and listen while you get things off your chest, i just need a minimum of yelling and "tone". but if you think i cant handle your truth i promise you that you're kidding yourself. f*ck that. i'm still standing arent i? that's right. you can suck my dick if you think i'm fragile.

- i'm a femme and i'm a girl and i'm queer. deal. i'm not a lesbian and i'm not gay, i'm not bisexual and i'm not straight. i have no issue with the ways that other people identify or the words other people use to define themselves. i dont care if someone wants to call themselves a skittles eating squid, these are my words. dont ask me to pretend i'm someone i'm not. if you're not out of the closet i will make room for that because i dont live your life and i dont feel the need to tell you how to take up space or how to structure your world. but i am queer and i will say so when people ask.

- indulgence and patience. you'll need both. i'm a handful.

09-17-2012, 04:05 PM	#133
Nomad Timed Out How Do You Identify?: stone femme Daddy's girl Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: disinterested Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: in my head Posts: 991 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,848 Thanked 3,745 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 0	list of threes the buzz kills: - double standards - using affection as a weapon (removing it when angry, dangling it like a carrot in order to encourage a particular behavior, using it as a reward) - insults/name calling when angry (and yes, you could call me out if i do this stuff. i'm human, not perfect.) the must haves: - be over your your mistakes and your losses. i'm a right here-right now kind of girl - cut the apron strings. love the family. visit the family. involve the family in some of our comings and goings. but unless you're related to someone who can order the removal of my pinkie for missing a family reunion i'd prefer that you didnt spend valuable relationship time worshipping your family. - talk. talktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalkta lktalktalktalktalktalktalk the addenda: - handle your health. i like you. i want to drive you batsht crazy for a long time. - dont treat me like i'm fragile. i'm a tough little bitch. i might cry. i might struggle with the reality of my mistakes or the enormity of the clusterfck i created because of those mistakes but i want full metal jacket honesty. i can handle your anger, i just need time to breathe sometimes. i'll sit still and listen while you get things off your chest, i just need a minimum of yelling and "tone". but if you think i cant handle your truth i promise you that you're kidding yourself. fck that. i'm still standing arent i? that's right. you can suck my dick if you think i'm fragile. - i'm a femme and i'm a girl and i'm queer. deal. i'm not a lesbian and i'm not gay, i'm not bisexual and i'm not straight. i have no issue with the ways that other people identify or the words other people use to define themselves. i dont care if someone wants to call themselves a skittles eating squid, these* are my words. dont ask me to pretend i'm someone i'm not. if you're not out of the closet i will make room for that because i dont live your life and i dont feel the need to tell you how to take up space or how to structure your world. but i am queer and i will say so when people ask. - indulgence and patience. you'll need both. i'm a handful.