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MissItalianDiva · 09-21-2012, 10:57 AM

Hmm...I thought I understood your general point but after reading your post again I just am sitting here wondering WTH to be honest.

Perhaps this group your are a member or participant in just simply does not want or need to identify with being butch or femme. Why do they have to be "generic" lesbians or even lesbians for that matter. Perhaps they choose to date others that are "andro" etc as you put it because that is where their attraction is and of course their choice.

I don't get why it bothers you that they are different. My suggestion would be to
1. Not box folks into categories
2. Don't make assumptions
3. Realize not everyone is going to or will want to have the same view of you even if you have a discussion with them
4. Open you mind and your world.

I am sorry but your post and words seem rather hypocritical to me or at the very least contradictory. I tried to read in between the lines but I can't seem to find any other way to perceive this other then it being offensive.

09-21-2012, 10:57 AM	#10
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Hmm...I thought I understood your general point but after reading your post again I just am sitting here wondering WTH to be honest. Perhaps this group your are a member or participant in just simply does not want or need to identify with being butch or femme. Why do they have to be "generic" lesbians or even lesbians for that matter. Perhaps they choose to date others that are "andro" etc as you put it because that is where their attraction is and of course their choice. I don't get why it bothers you that they are different. My suggestion would be to 1. Not box folks into categories 2. Don't make assumptions 3. Realize not everyone is going to or will want to have the same view of you even if you have a discussion with them 4. Open you mind and your world. I am sorry but your post and words seem rather hypocritical to me or at the very least contradictory. I tried to read in between the lines but I can't seem to find any other way to perceive this other then it being offensive.