[Corkey]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

Let me try approach this question from a different perspective, sinc I have zero intention of generalizing anyone but clearly not explaining myself effectively:

You live in a community with extremely little diversity in the lesbian community and a lot of open anti-butch/femme viewpoints, even open derision of butches in particular. Within the context of an ongoing lesbian discussion group (with pre-announced topics so no one is surprised) you'd like to open a dialog to discuss gender presentation and expression in the lesbian community, with the hope of both starting some honest dialog and to potentially give potentially closeted butches and femmes in that community a safe space to self-identify and connect.

How would you go about doing that? How would you describe this particular discussion on the schedule?

Invite them to this site. I wouldn't try to open other peoples minds who were genderphobic. It's a waste of energy.