[Maverick]

In my opinion, you are doing exactly what this child needs. I struggled my whole life with feeling one way and being perceived and pushed in another. Nobody understood how I felt and I somehow managed to deal with it all...but at a cost. Oh how I would have loved for a caring person tell me that it's ok for me to not be like all the other little girls who enjoy playing with dolls. Thankfully, even though my single mom didn't understand she did allow me to have my boy toys/clothes and cut my hair short as long as I compromised and had some girl toys as well and wore the dresses to church and stuff. Usually my barbie's were GI Joe's girlfriends LOL and I was cool with that. For me, I could not have dealt with it if my family forced me to be a girly girl. I think it would have killed my spirit and possibly led me to dark places I don't want to imagine. If the desire in your grandchild is strong to be boyish or a boy then I say let this little person express themselves the way that is right for them. As far as your ex..I can't imagine why he is so adamantly against honoring his grandchild's desires. Good luck.