ok... I wasn't really talking about that though... I was just speaking in general about my experiences of "putting myself out there" as a lot of people ARE needing to protect their greater privacy... it's not about shame for many people - they really do have to protect themselves because of their work or because... they just find that info way too personal.
I live in a culture where asking if you are married is considered kinda borderline rude. If I meet someone in a pub, I don't ask what do you do for work, are you married, got any kids... blah blah normal stuff. direct questions of that type are considered rude and personal. I personally have given up on trying to play along cause my brain just can't cope with the tango it has to do in it's head, but I respect their strange notions of what is private.
People need different levels. most people were talking about very tight levels. I was just chipping in what it's like when those security levels are flappin in the breeze
