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Originally Posted by LadyRieinAL
Every Butch who has ever dated a femme is some femmes Ex
And are all femmes to be considered Sister femmes to every femme on Planet?
Perhaps it would it be better for each butch to come with a warning label - Be forewarned my ex is _____ and ______ and ______.
And at what time does my own desire, my own happines mean anything - Good lord, does this mean I'm bad and wrong if I find someone attractive who has dated someone on Planet who is someone's EX.
And If I decide to do the right thing in another femme's eyes and not date her EX, will she help me look outside of Planet for someone for me to date?
And is this discussion about any Ex on Planet OR the just the Ex of a femme that I've developed a bond?
I hate stepping on other people's hearts - why did this subject have to come up - man!! NOW I have more worries on my plate.
My little list of what is acceptable for a perspective date has just become almost Nil.
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Lady-
I perceive people to be talking about *very* close friendships, not the casual connections that I think you are describing.
Just for example, June and I are very close friends. She is my sistergirl and I have known her and her partner for going on 8 or 9 years now. I love them both.
They also know Jackhammer and I has a couple. We have been in each other's homes several times and June and I are probably responsible for keeping AT&T in business with thousands of hours of phone calls.
We are close in ways that are super intimate and I have confided in her as she has in me about very personal things. If she and Kat broke up, you couldn't PAY me to date Kat. Or even consider it. (and that isn't because I don't think Kat is awesome, because she is, but she is my girl's partner and therefor off limits in huge ways fo-eva-eva).
And honestly, it's not even something that will ever come up because my relationship with Jackhammer is forever and #2 My friendship with June is a primary friendship.