[QueenofSmirks]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

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Did I react negatively to being told I "snubbed my nose" and was "judgmental" to those with different opinions? Yes. That clearly felt like a personal attack to me. Actually, it was. I ensure that I make no personal attacks or use judgmental attacks on others when I disagree and pride myself on that. Should I have said that the poster appeared to be devils advocate? No, I should not have. I was being reactive and I do apologize for that. I do not feel proud of my reaction in that case.

As I have said in many posts since I joined, that is the beauty of the Planet: that we are all entitled to our reactions, both positive and negative and I believe that several folks in this thread agreed and several did not.

One post can prompt 10 different opinions. I may not agree with 5 of the 10 and may say so, but I defend to the end their right to that opinion and to say so (as long as we do so without personal attacks on those with which we disagree).

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Anya, I was direct, but I did not personally attack you. My comments were directed at you because you're the one who started the thread, and my questions were about your questions. I said it felt like (to ME) that your responses to posters that did not fall in line with your way of thinking/behaving were judgmental. That is my opinion. I don't know any other way to state it that you wouldn't consider it a "personal attack". I was confused why you would ask a slew of questions but then give responses like "I would never do that, but I understand *your* values may be different." I asked you to clarify a few things so that I could understand where you were coming from and to possibly clear up any misunderstandings on my part. I do not play devil's advocate unless I state I am doing so to make a point. I don't need to come into threads to stir up shit, they often do that all by themselves. If you don't feel like answering my questions, that is certainly your right; I'm not going to lose sleep over it. I'm fine with sticking to discussions where people actually take responsibility for what they say and respond to each other's questions and comments, whether we agree or not.