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Originally Posted by gaea
Speaking for myself here
None of my ex's are my Possession..
therefore flirt away as it isn't any of my business and if i get my little feelers hurt that's my shit to deal with
Im also gonna go out on a line here and stand up for the stranger in this scenario because no where in the original post did it denote that the 2 were "friends" or best friends for that matter simply that they had on occasion to bump into each other....
I wont live by a code where my ex is suppose to be a possession nor will i live by a code where your ex is your possession unless of course there is a contract with your ex and then respect to that contract simply applies...that's a whole 'nother topic though 
in any case perhaps the OP's friend who was "crushed" need pull up her big girl panties and move on already. |
This. Exactly, in particular with regard to it being clear that the other femme was nothing more than a nodding acquaintance. I reaslize that this thread took a different direction than the OP stated but I think that point seems to have been lost in the discussion. If I choose to stay away from places my ex is going to be, that's my choice. If I choose to work out an agreement with my ex about who goes to what public/social event so that we don't cross paths, that's my choice. And if I go somewhere and see my EX flirting with someone, or actually WITH someone new, if that person is not someone with whom I would normally have serious personal conversations, and we don't have any kind of deep friendship, then how I respond to seeing my ex with someone else is MY CHOICE. I can choose to behave immaturely as if I owned my ex and as if this acquaintance somehow owed me the loyalty to be hands-off or discrete or whatever, or, as was just stated, I can pull up my big girl panties and deal with my own shit and move on.