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Originally Posted by Random
I have another question to pose?
What if a mate has passed away?
Would you mind if your best girlfriend hooked up with your partner if you passed away?
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no, I'm dead, I'm going to mind, like, fuck all. I'm dead.
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If you wouldn't mind then, then what is the difference between a live ex and a passed away partner?
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because I'm dead. I wouldn't have to watch it.
that's really the only issue - watching something that hurts. And that's why you remove yourself from things you do not want to see or agree to space so neither have to watch. Dead is dead. there ain't no watchin or being botherd about anything anymore!
I told "T" that if she died I would be very greatly upset. her response was "I wouldn't care how upset you'd be! I'd be dead!" then laughed. She had a point. So I told her to shut it.
If someone went off with my wife, who I'm in the process of divorcing, I would highly doubt I would Give A Flying Fuck. I'm completely over emotional romantic attachment to her.
However, if my mate and flatmate went off and screwed "T" the last person I had any real feelings for even though most of them have been based on friendship and she has a gf whom I really like and no commitments were ever made... I'd be ravingly upset. Why? because I still have vague fuzzed feelings for her that I'm never bloody sure of what exactly they are.
I actually *told* my flatmate that because "T" has told me on several occations how hot she thinks my flatmate is and how easy it would be to fall in love with her, how anyone would. My flatmate kindly responded "ffs barb, she might well have thought about it in passing but that she tells you every so often means she's taking the piss and trying to get your knickers in a twist. You get jealous of her getting massaged elsewhere. when she was on the table, she talked about Janessa (her acupressurist) till you went toooooootally quiet than asked in that smart ass tone of voice of hers 'you getting jealous?' She tells you that to get you pissy and laugh and poke you and you love it."
never the less, I let her know I would be extremely upset.
She told me it wouldn't happen.
Personally I wouldn't be surpised. But I would also expect her to tell me if they did. I wouldn't de-friend either of them, I have no right to make those kinds of demands and punishments. But I let her know I would. shit happens in the moment. I was verrrrry high and proud about how I'd never do that kind of thing until "T". I lose my resolve around her at times: I get jealous, I want her attention, I love it when she makes me laugh, and I adore her to bits. I can see me very much making an error if I was pushed quite hard.
Which has been a real slice of humble pie to gobble down.