[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, I don't date "misters," and I do sometimes date "sisters." But whatever.

In my world -- queer and leather -- the dating pool is somewhat smaller. I am also poly. So some of the intensity around this escapes me.

For the most part, however, I am not interested in close friends' partners. I know too damned much about them. I have good friends whose partners I love. (Unfortunately, one of those couples is getting divorced.) But, in general, my good friends don't pick as *I* would choose for them. Their partners aren't good enough for them because my friends are so fucking fabulous that it would take an angel to merit their attentions. And they usually do not date angels.

So after hearing all the stories about the partners, I am not really that interested in them. I'd be like, yeah, try that shit with ME and see how it works out.

i kinda feel this way too.. but sometimes two good people just don't make a good match.. but from my experience most of my femmefriendsisters left someone for a good reason, and i sure as heck don't would not want to even think about inviting that mess into my life..many times i've encouraged them to move and find happiness... so that would be beyond weird.