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Originally Posted by gaea
I have been reading the last few pages wow how one topic can pose so many different questions....So I have one of my own now this is theoretical and or hypothetical so keep that in mind and I will use letters to represent person's...
Persons A & B are in a relationship that lasts less than 1 year and they break up.
Person A begins dating several people up to an including sex etc.
Person B is seen at a party flirting with Person C who does not know person A at all
so here is my question
Does person C owe "femme" code to person A because they happen to be at the same party? if so why?
Does person A at any time owe anything to person B?
Considering Person A is dating/flirting/ having sexual relations with another and or many others.
Who owes what to whom in this scenario and why?
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Just for the sake of confusion, I'll be person A for my response.
Person C owes me nothing, not even respect as another human being. We don't know each other. Just because we both may happen to identify near or on the same point on the gender spectrum means absolutely zero to me. It doesn't mean anything more or less. I have friends of all genders and gender ID's.
Person B - my supposed ex - also owes me nothing. Nobody is responsible for me, except me. Now, having been through a few breakups in my life, I can say I've *expected* certain things from people I've been involved with, but I don't feel anything is "owed" to me. As someone else mentioned in another post, one of my exes and I agreed to avoid certain hangouts on certain nights. We were young and it was a bitter break up, so it was best for us not to run into each other. Other exes I had no problem seeing them and even hanging out with them and their new partner; others I could literally care less. So, a lot depends on a lot of different factors.
What do I owe my ex? For me it depends on how they treated me and our relationship. Maybe all I owe them is civility, maybe I owe them my undying love and respect - again, it depends on a lot of factors.