[dykeumentary]

First, Mazel Tov for being physically present with someone and contemplating a date. It is worth a LOT these days. You've already done a huge first step. F*ck Facebook.

Second, you wrote that the person is about your age, so they are also used to that awkward time between meeting and finding out if you are available to date. Personally, i find it a loss that "online dating" has made it so people only fiirt with people whom 'the database' has determined to be "single". What a shame, as if people "in relationship" dont need to feel sexy to a stranger once in a while!
I flirt on the subway, at the library, on the street, etc. What else would I be doing? Worrying about work? ummm, no.

And regarding Femme or Butch to make the first move-- this is the 21st century, and boldness is no longer assigned a gender! That's great news! I am a butch who usually makes the first move, and how I long to interact with Femmes who are confident enough to approach me.

So all this say: You go, girl! Decide what you want, and tell that person. You can't lose.
Plus it is HOT.