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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me
Oh, trust me, if we had a social interaction, and especially if I knew for sure that she was butch, I'd have no problem making the first move. But my concern wasn't about if I should make the first move as a femme," it was that I don't even know if she ID's as butch. I know that I would ultimately find this out once we spent time (once I figured out how to make it possible to spend some time, which is really the biggest issue), and that we might have the potential to be friends if she's not, but I guess once again it requires context - there's a lot of butch-phobic feelings in this community, and how I'd approach a butch would be different than how I'd approach someone who only looked butch but didn't identify as one at all. Or maybe I'm just over-thinking and over-complicating it, because I don't know how to function face-to-face instead of from behind a keyboard .)
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Yea, verily I say again: FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT.
Don't let anything slow your game. Do you want to go on a date with her? Make it happen. I don't get the impression that there is some unequal power dynamic, and she isn't your boss or employee, so make your move! She is completely empowered to thrill you or shoot you down.
I dare you.
And on a secondary note: do I need to come down to Delaware and address these "butch-phobic" knuckleheads? Their loss, anyway.