First, i feel like an intruder in this femme/butch space...so, apologies for any offence.
I should be asleep. I almost got sucked into your post once and then i finally did peek in...I think i like your name...dance with me....anyhow.
I thought of a few points that stick out, in my mind and my experience, in regards to your post.
One...you should not have to femme it up or doll up for someone that is naturally attracted to you...in order to get their attention. If that person likes
you they will like you no matter what attire or garb you have on or what you
regularly look like. With this...you will be a natural and you will attract what is best for you and for them.
Two... after a break up of an 11 year relationship... It took me awhile to be involved with someone else or to be forward because i had not dated for what seemed like forever. So, who knows her/hys situation. I did ask a femme for her phone number. However, i took it really slow cause i had not dated for quite sometime. And if she had not asked me in for TEA...i never would have pushed for more unless given that opportunity. And even with that...i was slow to bite. This has to do with being old school and gentlemanly i guess. Also, because of my past long term relationship.
So, i guess, it is kind of odd for a dude sometimes. It is kind of like a respect thing. Hard to explain. Sometimes we wait for various reasons. Sometimes there has to be this "green light" thing from a woman.
Damn i am writing too much. I think the facebook friend deal is a good place to start. Play it by ear too. You may have to be the one to let her/hym know that you are interested and available. However, if she/hy is interested...they will ask...good luck
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