[Dance-with-me]

I have not yet read all of the responses but I wanted to reply.

For me, the issues come up when one or more of my various identities goes against the stereotype of another of my identities: that is a good thing in some ways, particularly in terms of breaking down stereotypes, but it also makes being stealth the default for those identities and that's not what I always want.

For example, being true to my femme identity means that my queer identity is not always obvious - I am perceived as straight. Being intelligent, educated and articulate (can't think of one word that would define that as an identity, but it IS one of my identities, an important part of who I am) means that my Appalachian roots and identity are not always obvious - people are [often rudely] surprised that I should identify as Appalachian when I don't have the accent of most of my kin, I didn't grow up there (military brat), and I don't fit their stereotype.

More later - just realized I should be on my way to work!