[DMW]

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

I'm just allowing life to happen right now. I'm just trusting what happens will be ok. I am glad to be back on this site though....nice not to have to explain shit, you know?

Yeah...i get this totally.

That shit in the other room pissed me off because. How dare ANYone put ANYne down for how they want to be in their own lives. I get so tired of being told I'm "wrong" or sexist for wanting to live with what many call "old fashioned beliefs", & yes...a woman who "wants" to treat me the way I want to be treated...
And i get this also, the thing is....what we say can be heard as inflammatory when we don't mean it to be that way...that happens outside of this site also...you know? I can't blame a person on the site if they are offended by the remark or that they need clarification from me that i am not sexist...and i believe that we are now in a space where i can say...hey "where is my paper and my coffee winch..." and not have to explain that i am not sexist... it really isn't a whole lot different than in real time...the place needs to be respected and so do all of the people in it...you know? I just lost some of my post...so annoying...ok...i was saying this...
it isn't a good idea to bring your complaints from another thread into some other thread...it is rude to perpetuate that...number one. and i know i don't want to behave like that. So, we have to be responsible for our own behavior and what we say here also....just like in face to face life...but, here it is more difficult. There are times when people need answers from what we have posted because they don't know what we meant when we post. They need clarification. I need that sometimes also. it is our job not to engage in or perpetuate that inflammatory stuff. and to not take ?'s of clarification personally and get all defensive...I can't stand that. I hope that helps you to understand. I want you to know that i am not pointing fingers at you when i say...we or our or you. this is just how i feel about it.


Anyway, enough rambling.....anyone had a dating experience that they care to share? One w/ a straight woman?



Jonathan

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